Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Closure

I had an entirely different post for today but I am preempting it for this one:

Last week I got a message on my cell phone from Lani at the Long Term Care Facility where Bruce lived. She said there was an "incident" and I should call when I could and talk to the Station 4 nurse. I got the message on Thursday so I called and they told me that Bruce was in the hospital due to burns that he incurred while smoking. They told me he was stable and I figured they were short staffed on Christmas and that I would call to today. Well, they called me this morning to tell me he "expired" yesterday at 11:32 a.m. I was just getting ready to leave work to meet with my mom and extended family when I got the call. I called the Medical Examiner and they told me that the final cause of death is to be determined. They are short staffed due to some of the doctors being trapped on the East coast due to the weather so it will be a few days before I know exactly what happened. I did cry when I heard and told my coworkers what happened. It helped calm me to talk to them which was good - I ended up laughing as I explained to Molly what a sap I am. So they asked me if I would be willing to make the arrangements for his remains and I told them I would. Now I have to decide whether to bury him or cremate him and then what to do with the ashes. He did not have a will and there were no personal requests regarding his final wishes in his file.  I personally think that this happened for a reason. There was a divine plan for me to enter into his life, albeit briefly, at the time I did.  I got closure and I think he did too and that at least he is not being buried by the state. 

Did fine with food today. I had brunch and then dinner so calories were pretty low but so was the activity. I am fighting some kind of bronchial thing and hoping it doesn't get any worse. Oh and I weighed this morning and I was 260.  Until next time...


22 comments:

  1. My deepest condolences, K. But what beauty in that you both got to spend time with him first. What a blessing. I love that you got the closure you were seeking. Love, A.

    ReplyDelete
  2. My heartfelt sympathy to you, Katie. It sounds as though this unfolded in a way that was in fact divine - for both of you. It's wonderful that you're assuming responsibility for his remains - another piece of loving kindness to extend his way. May you find peace in this.

    ReplyDelete
  3. Oh,I'm so sorry. It's odd how things work out sometimes though...

    Polar's Mom
    www.polarspage.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  4. My heart goes out to you. I had the same type of experience. I know you will be at peace since there was some mending prior to his passing. I know I don't look back and wonder "what if".

    ReplyDelete
  5. I agree... I see a type of divine intervention all over this. I am confident you will do just the right thing.

    ReplyDelete
  6. Hugs Katie, glad you got closure.

    ReplyDelete
  7. I'm so sorry for your loss, Katie - and so grateful that you got to meet and spend time with Bruce before this happened. Hugs to you, my friend.

    ReplyDelete
  8. I'm so sorry, but glad you got closure. Hang in there!

    ReplyDelete
  9. KJ ... We're now connected. you know my moniker and Sally's is 'Grandma'.
    ET
    (may the force be with you)

    ReplyDelete
  10. My condolences to you. Remarkable that you were able to spend time with him before his passing.

    ReplyDelete
  11. I'm so sorry that it happened right after you got to meet him. Then again i'm glad you got to meet him. That at least will give some closure.

    ReplyDelete
  12. You have my sympathies, Katie. What grace-filled timing that you would find and meet him before he died. Just six months later and it would have been too late. God is good.

    Deb

    ReplyDelete
  13. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

    ReplyDelete
  14. I'm SO sorry, Katie. My thoughts and prayers are with you. *HUGS*

    ReplyDelete
  15. Katie, I'm so sorry. Thoughts and prayers your way.

    ReplyDelete
  16. I am so sorry to hear that Katie, but I agree that its a good thing you got in touch with him when you did, instead of wondering what could have been.

    Hugs to you and your family! (and hope you feel better!)

    ReplyDelete
  17. Definitely divine....definitely. I'm glad you and he found closure.

    ReplyDelete
  18. Wow, Katie. I'm so sorry. What a story. thanks for sharing it with us.

    ReplyDelete
  19. Sweetheart, Katie -
    How did I miss this one?
    I am so very sorry for your loss.
    big hugs.

    ReplyDelete

I'd love to know what's on your mind...