Hello ladies and gents! (if there are any gents reading...) How are you guys doing? I am doing better today. Thank you for all the comments yesterday, btw. I really appreciate it! Not an easy situation all the way around. We did have a decent talk last night and I am going to come up with a list of things that I will not tolerate and if he violates them, he is out. There has to be repercussions for his behavior. If I take him back time and again then he knows he can get away with whatever he wants. If I set guidelines and he violates them then he has no one to blame but himself. BIG sigh.
I went and got my haircut and ended up crying while talking to Katie. What a sap I am! I filled her in on everything since I met Uncle Steve back on August 14th. I discovered that the sushi place behind the salon is now Mr. Pickles Sandwich shop. Bummer!! I have never heard of Mr. Pickles, but Katie said they are really good. I was looking forward to sushi though! I ended up having a steak sandwich at home. I had intended on playing Wii but it didn't happen. When I was at Big Lots I found attachments for the Wii remotes for Tennis, Golf and Baseball that can be used with EA Sports, Wii Plus, Wii Sports and Wii Resort. I wanted to test them out last night but I was too burnt. Maybe tonight...
Picking up my brother, Bob at the Airport today. His plans changed and he is staying until Thursday. We will go out to dinner with my mom and then he is staying at her house and using her car tomorrow for his meeting. I can't help but feel apprehension about going to dinner with them and I know it is silly. They are my family and they love me. I still feel it though... not sure where we will go to dinner but I imagine it will be Fish Market. It could be Outback and in that case I would order the Ahi appetizer as my meal. Guess I will find out... Until next time...
Enjoy your dinner out. Don't you hate it when your favorite places close down? :(
ReplyDeleteSorry you had such a tough weekend, I hope your dinner out is fun, and I hope you can get something that doesn't do too much damage to your weight loss efforts.
ReplyDeleteOn your last post, you are right, you should NOT let anyone treat you so poorly, and you are worth more than a life spent with a drunk. Good for you for realizing it!
I am sorry about your difficult situation at home.(((HUGS))
ReplyDeleteHopefully, you can enjoy a fun night out with your family and some good food ! Good idea to plan ahead : )
Hey girl, just catching up with some reading and sorry about some of the stuff you are going through right now. I'm proud of you for your attitude, it looks like you are keeping it together.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy the time with your family! Keep your head up (=
Glad you set boundries, hopefully he heard you and believed you. Hope dinner goes ok.
ReplyDeleteI liked this sentence: "If I set guidelines and he violates them then he has no one to blame but himself." But I think you have to set some guidelines for yourself too. What about:
ReplyDelete"If I set guidelines and allow him to continuously violate them I have no one to blame but myself." I know it's not as easy as black and white, but you're right, he will continue to act in this way if you allow it. You can only control you, so I'd encourage you to think about what you can do. I don't mean that at all in a blaming way, because Dave's problem is not yours. I just don't want to see you allow it to become yours.
Hugs.
glad you worked things out with Dave. you have to stick to your guns Girl!
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your dinner with family. Relax, you're right, they do love you!
I agree with watchsarahshrink. How many items on this list of intolerable behavior are things he has already done in the past? I don't think you need any justification at this point to remove him from your life--he has a problem, and he chooses not to address it. It affects your life negatively, and he doesn't care enough to do anything about it. I know he's sick, and it's sad to be at this point, but he has made it clear that he doesn't want to get well. End of story.
ReplyDeleteI know it's hard to make a final decision about Dave, but I'm glad you have made things clear with him about what is acceptable. Hold him to it - you deserve happiness. :)
ReplyDeletesounds like an awesome step with Dave.
ReplyDeleteHope things are better with Dave~
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