Since I am encroaching on being single, it has been on my mind about meeting/being with someone else/new. When I got together with Dave, I was 38 and I weighed about 270 if I recall. He took me as I am and told me I was beautiful. Then I got heavier and ultimately gained 45 lbs. the first few years we were together. I ended up doing insulin shots twice a day and being diagnosed with Sleep Apnea and given a CPAP machine to sleep with. I felt worlds better and started losing weight. I am still down 60 lbs. from then but I am still doing one insulin shot and sleeping with the CPAP still. Eventually, I may be able to ditch the machine with continued weight loss. Same with the insulin.
How do you tell someone you have to sleep with a machine? I suppose if the person really cared about you it wouldn't matter but how do you even bring it up in a conversation?? Obliviously, it wouldn't have to be brought up right away but it does sit on my nightstand and even if we were watching a movie or something it is sitting right there. I could always hide it but I think that would be counterproductive and would compromise my sleep. I know it is not the biggest priority in the world but it has really been plaguing my mind so I thought I would post about it. Until next time...
That's a tough one. Reminds me of when I told my now husband that I had a daughter. I think you will just now when it is good to tell him though a machine & daughter or a far cry from each other!!!
ReplyDeleteIts not that a big a deal.....you only put it on when you "sleep" - its not going to get in the way. My husband has had one for years. It will work out. Don't worry about it :) Hugs.
ReplyDeleteMy now husband has psoriasis. Once in our early stages of dating I fell asleep on his couch watching a movie and was offended when I woke up very late and he asked me to leave. At the time I didn't know that sometimes he slept with a shower cap on to wear medication on his scalp. He had asked me to leave because he didn't want me to see him like that. Ultimately it doesn't matter. The next day I remember having a talk with him about why he'd asked me to leave and we worked it out. I think it would have just been better for him to be honest about it. Even if he didn't want me to see him like that it would have been nice to know about it, once our relationship hit that level.
ReplyDeleteTell him to go home to sleep in his own bed! "Sleeping" together doesn't have to extend into sleeping over. When he is at the importance level of sleeping over, then you can tell him. Or you can tell him if he sees it and asks, it is no big deal-it's not like you have a penis! ;-)
ReplyDeleteI agree with previous posters. He can sleep in his own bed if he can't accept you as you are.
ReplyDeleteBy the way: are you still doing the Fitbit thing? I really like mine!
I don't think it should be a problem- it's increasingly common these days to meet people who sleep with a CPAP machine - I recently met someone whose husband does. It's not the weird, rare thing it once was.
ReplyDeleteI see em all the time... I would sleep with oxygen if I could.. its good for a person! *hugs*
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's that big of a deal. a LOT Of people have sleep apnea. It's fairly common to have a CPAP, for a variety of reasons. My BFF, husband and mom all have one, for different reasons. I don't think it would be a turn off at all. Let him hear you snore and twitch a time or two. He'll get you hooked into that thing lickity split!
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