Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Coddle or Throttle?

Had a decent evening. I did not really eat dinner but had some grapes, almonds and swiss cheese. Pretty random but it was hot and it worked. Did no formal exercise. That needs to change immeadiately!

I had a situation happen last week that reminded me of my own story and I thought I would share it in hopes of helping someone see the light so to speak.

There is a blog that I used to read until recently and the blogger considers his/her blog a weight loss blog. They have been blogging for 5 years and the goal for this blogger is to lose 30 lbs. so they can get Gastric Bypass surgery. Over the course of the 5 years, the blogger has lost a total of 5 lbs or 1 lb. per year. This blogger is over 300 lbs. and is 40 years old. I had been reading this blog for quite awhile and decided to comment. On this particular week the blogger gained after a week of waiting to weigh in. I basically said that no matter how it was spun, it was still a gain and that if he/she did not take some action soon that their future would be filled with obesity related co-morbidities like sleep apnea, diabetes and high blood pressure. Well, needless to say the comment flew over like a lead balloon. The blogger totally attacked me in the comments and in subsequent emails. She called me evil, vile, mean and nasty all because I mentioned something that could happen if she did not take some action.  I had debated about even commenting but after a year of reading I thought it was time. Apparently, she just wants people to comment that support her and don't question her progress or lack thereof.

It reminded me of my own situation. I had friends that wanted to approach me about my weight but did not for fear of offending me but asked why I was being coddled by others. Ultimately, I had two different friends separately approach me and expressed their concern for my health and that they wanted me to be around and not die from obesity related illnesses.  It is what was the final straw for me to finally do something. I lost 68 lbs. and have kept it off for a year and a half now. I have only lost about 8-10 lbs. in the last year but plan on losing much more. I don't claim to know more then the next person about weight loss but I have walked the walk and made some progress towards my goals in the 3 years I have blogged.

It also reminds me of another friend I have. He is a nice guy but he does a few things that are counter productive to a successful future. I watched him do it for a few years and finally said something about it to him and he took it okay actually. He has made some progress and is working on a brighter future for himself. He knew it was coming from a place of kindness and not a judgment call. He was grateful I said something just like I was grateful that my friends took the time to say something to me. Until next time...


  1. I am so sorry she/he took your comments the wrong way. Hope you are ok and dont take it personal... She/he probably took their own frustrations out on you. Hope your day gets better and cooler.

  2. I am so sorry someone would treat you like that, Katie! I actually recently posted about this exact same thing.. we blog for support, and if you want to be a good friend, we call each other out! You, my friend, are a joy to read, and an amazing person. You did the right thing.

  3. I read your blog, love the pictures you post, especially of the jewelry. :)

    However some of what I read makes me *sigh*... "this (fill in the blank: weight loss, eating healthy, exercise, whatever) needs to change immediately". It seems I read that every week.

    How come?

    1. Thanks for the comment Cindy. You made a very valid point. The short answer is that I have not made WL or exercise the priority it needs to be for losing.

      Hope to change that!

  4. I wish that would fill me up for dinner! I feel like dinner has to be my biggest meal, think it's more in my head than anything though!

    You know what? You might have only lost 8-10 pounds, but you know what? You're smaller than last year!! So, you hang right in there girl!

  5. It is hard to confront someone when you see them doing things that aren't benefiting them. And then getting slammed for doing it? Wow. I'd have a hard time ever saying something again.

  6. Good for you for reaching out even if they didn't take it so well! I wish some of my friends and relatives would have said something to me sooner, but I'm happy that they did at all even though I was defensive. If in 5 years they haven't made any losses, they need to realize what they're doing is not working. Hopefully when the anger subsides, they'll see that.

  7. I don't really understand why the blogger felt the need to lash out at you. You don't KNOW her/him in real life right? I myself get EXTREMELY pissed if friends or family comment on my weight. Like DUH. I KNOW i'm fat, you don't have to make me feel bad about it. But strangers? Eh...not so much. Then again, I don't have a weight loss blog, so I'm not putting it out there that i'm TRYING to lose weight. If you put it out there to the WORLD, then you have to expect that at some point the WORLD is going to come down on your ass. That's just the way it is. You have to have thick skin to blog I think.

  8. Wow...sorry you had this bad experience Katie!!


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