When we think of grief, it usually relates to someone who has died but it can also happen when something catastrophic happens in your life like a divorce,
end of a relationship, infertility or a tragedy/disaster. Each person deals with their grief differently and there is no timeline for how long one grieves. The 5 stages (DABDA) are:
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
The important thing, in my opinion, is that you allow yourself to process the pain. Suppressing your emotions or being in denial for too long can be harmful to your mental and physical health. Someone told me one time,
you have to feel to heal which I totally agree. During my weight loss journey, I have soul searched and come to terms with a lot of the issues that caused my morbid obesity but I had to
feel all the pain (
who wants to do that right?) but I think it is an integral part of making life altering or lifestyle changes. I believe that is part of my mothers issue is that she is not an emotional person and purposely avoids thinking about what she is facing. She is losing her vision rapidly, she lost her ability to drive and she ended up in the hospital for a month or two. Who wouldn't be depressed about that??? The point is though is she never grieved for the changes that were happening and it snowballed and here we are now...
I am feeling better today. I still did not get much in my belly and ate a cheese sandwich for dinner. I haven't cooked since last week and that needs to change. It stinks cooking for one person. Ugh!! The good news for the day is that my dress pants are looser then they ever have been so I am feeling pretty good about that. Tonight, I am going to my mom's (
MUST NOT BAIL!) to help her figure out a bill. I am not up for going out to dinner or anything. Until next time...
