When we think of grief, it usually relates to someone who has died but it can also happen when something catastrophic happens in your life like a divorce,
end of a relationship, infertility or a tragedy/disaster. Each person deals with their grief differently and there is no timeline for how long one grieves. The 5 stages (DABDA) are:
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
The important thing, in my opinion, is that you allow yourself to process the pain. Suppressing your emotions or being in denial for too long can be harmful to your mental and physical health. Someone told me one time,
you have to feel to heal which I totally agree. During my weight loss journey, I have soul searched and come to terms with a lot of the issues that caused my morbid obesity but I had to
feel all the pain (
who wants to do that right?) but I think it is an integral part of making life altering or lifestyle changes. I believe that is part of my mothers issue is that she is not an emotional person and purposely avoids thinking about what she is facing. She is losing her vision rapidly, she lost her ability to drive and she ended up in the hospital for a month or two. Who wouldn't be depressed about that??? The point is though is she never grieved for the changes that were happening and it snowballed and here we are now...
I am feeling better today. I still did not get much in my belly and ate a cheese sandwich for dinner. I haven't cooked since last week and that needs to change. It stinks cooking for one person. Ugh!! The good news for the day is that my dress pants are looser then they ever have been so I am feeling pretty good about that. Tonight, I am going to my mom's (
MUST NOT BAIL!) to help her figure out a bill. I am not up for going out to dinner or anything. Until next time...
I used to cook all the time but stopped when I started this diet. I loaded up my freezer instead. I buy a lot of those steamfresh veggies and dinners. They cost more, but it is better than trying to work out how much protein, fats, fiber and calories are in everything. Fridge is full with salad stuff. I had a cheese salad sandwich last night for dinner.
ReplyDeleteI long to cook, but I know I am weak where open food is concerned. I did a pot roast a couple of weeks ago and ended up with 3 servings because it tasted sooooo good. That is my weakness, tasty food. So since I am a good cook, I don't cook :)
Keep hangin' in Katie. Brighter days ahead!!!
ReplyDeleteIf this helps, when I'm in weight loss mode, I prefer cooking for just myself. That means I can be as controlled as I want to be without my wife feeling deprived of something.
ReplyDeleteI totally get your overall sentiment, but if your current situation allows you to be as self-absorbed as you sometimes need to really make strong progress towards getting healthy, then this can be a really great opportunity!